A fixer is what it is most often called. It’s not always a good thing. It’s not always necessary.
It is sometimes insulting and sometimes hurtful.
There is not always a damsel that needs saving. There is not always a problem that needs fixing.
Sometimes what is needed is space.
I don’t have to be able to save the day. I don’t have to be able to solve the problems that I see, because what I see is not always the problem.
Sometimes I can be the problem. Sometimes I can be selfish. Sometimes I can be blinded by the overwhelming desire to be the solution, that I make a problem worse instead of better. Sometimes instead of helping all I do is hurt.
That is last thing I want.
I want to show that I can be helpful, not hurtful.
A blessing, not a burden.
A listener, not a fixer.
A fighter, not a pusher.
A shoulder to cry on, not a hand that is forcing its way in.
A pair of arms to hold you, not to suffocate you.
I want to be these things.
I want to be what you need.
I want to be present.
I want you to know I care about it all;
the good and the bad.
That is it.
I don’t need to be the White Knight riding in for the rescue. You don’t need rescuing.
You are strong. You are independent. You are courageous. You are passionate. You are tenacious.
You are, in a word, inspiring.
I Will Fight For Love 